Whole 30: On the Road

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AMAZING farm fresh omelette with fruit and salad, my trusty coconut milk, and a bunless grassfed burger with all the fixin’s and a side of mustard. :-)

On Day 24, I went on a trip to the Influence Conference.  Here are the snacks I packed:

  • apples
  • cashews
  • Lara Bars
  • dried fruit
  • sweet potato chips (these are not approved b/c they aren’t cooked in coconut oil, but I figured they would be a better choice than regular potato chips.  I also wanted to be realistic if there was a lot of junk food around.)
  • guacamole cups
  • coconut milk for my coffee

With all of these snacks, I was totally fine.  I didn’t cheat, and I stayed focus.  The most difficult part was salad dressings.  I did end up eating a salad that was tossed in some sort of white balsamic dressing, but, oh well. I kept on going.  Also worth mentioning, I couldn’t finish the salad because of the dressing.  The taste was so strong.  I didn’t realize how much my taste has changed.

Any other time, I chose the best Whole 30 choice I could.  I knew not all the food would be cooked in approved oil/ghee. But, my main goal wasn’t perfection, but keeping with the overarching goal of whole and real foods.

My Whole 30 : Completed!!

Yesterday I completed whole 30!!  Can we just have a quick moment of silence that I actually completed something…
Okay.  Thank you.
I remember looking at the calendar when I had just completed week one & thought these next 3 weeks were going to take FOREVER.  Once I hit about day 10, it got much easier.  It really has started to become a habit.  And I really want this habit to continue.  But let me back up first…
When I first heard of Whole 30, I was sitting on a dock at Lake Gaston having just fully indulged in who knows what kind of junk… I’m certain cake, chips, burgers, fries were all included in this Labor Day weekend in 2012.  My aunt had the book, It Starts With Food.  I read it with my mouth hanging open and a disgusted look on my face.  I’m pretty sure I said out loud to my sister- “These people are crazy!! I would starve if I did this diet!!!!!”  I don’t remember if she agreed with me, but I thought she did.
Oh wait… no, she didn’t agree with me because she had already completed a  a sugar fast just a couple of months earlier.   I thought she had joined the crazy train.  I was a little mad at her (I don’t think I told her that.  How do you tell someone you are mad at them over their food choices?  LOL!)  But, come on!!  She left me alone with the chocolate chip cookies.  And chocolate chip cookies are much better when they are shared!  What I came to find out later is that I was being nudged out of my comfort zone- out of the land of cakes, cookies, chips, sugar!  And I didn’t like it one bit.
Because Nancy and I are best buds, I talked to her every day that she did this crazy sugar fast.  I saw first hand how she abandoned our beloved coffee creamer.  Then, how she gave up chocolate chip cookies.  And here is what really got me… she even did it with a good attitude!  I have only seen people change their eating habits with severe grumpiness.  And, I did not want to be signed up for that!!
I felt alone and sad in this sugar world.  But I also saw that she didn’t die. She didn’t need coffee anymore in the afternoon.  She had energy.  She felt good.  Really good.  That made me a teensy bit more mad, but even more curious!  Because I love her so much, I couldn’t be really mad at her.  😉
I began to think about giving up sugar & then decided I really couldn’t make an informed decision about this unless I gave it a try. I’m sure it would be a bunch of baloney and I would have my comfort food back (in moderation, of course) in no time.  It would also be guilt free because I would see that sugar and me are buds not enemies!
I made a no sugar/ processed food meal plan – I needed to know what I would have when the 4 pm munchies would strike! And then I went grocery shopping.
I started my first sugar fast, with my hubby by my side in October 2012.  I had just turned 31.  I ended up losing 7 pounds, gaining a ton of energy and having my eyes opened up to how sugar affected me.
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But, like many things that bring us comfort, it is hard to strip them away.  So while I did make some changes, I did go back to many comforting foods.
Next challenge was when Nancy asked me to join her for our first Whole 30.  I got the book for Christmas 2012, and was AMAZED to read all the science behind what processed foods, sugar, and wheat do to our bodies.  We started January 3, 2013.  I was so scared that I told Nancy I was just going to do a Whole 1 (as in, for ONE DAY! ha!)  If I lived, I would do a Whole 2.  Then, a Whole 3.  and MAYBE a Whole 7.  I made it to Whole 7 and REALLY started feeling good.  I had minor headaches during the detox phase (day 1-5).  Mainly felt tired, but honestly, that wasn’t anything new to me having 5 kids.  Each day though, was a focus for me. I was teaching myself to go to new foods instead of the old standbys.  I was also really learning how much I turned to food for entertainment or comfort…not true hunger.  By day 14 or 15, I had hit my stride.  And then, I made it to day 30!  I had lost 9 more pounds, and my immune system was strong.  This was the season of CRAZY sickness at our house (name any common childhood sickness & my kids had it that winter!), and I didn’t get one thing, but a minor cold.
I adopted many habits from that first Whole 30 go round.  I have kept the weight off, but did eventually add back in  eating all the food that isn’t ‘Whole 30 approved’ (ie: dairy, gluten, beans, grains, & gluten-free grains).
I did not put my family on Whole 30.  I cook for myself & Chris and then make the kids food.  They are toddler/preschool age & fighting that battle was just one I couldn’t do.  Had they been older, I probably would have just had us all do it.  I struggled with guilt when I first did this, but I also couldn’t fathom our whole family ‘detoxing’ together when I didn’t even know what to expect.   I can say that my food choices definitely affect my family!  I did a huge cleaning of our pantry and got rid of a ton of stuff.  It was a very good thing.  Snacks became fruit and veggies & there wasn’t bread found at dinner very often.  However, they did keep the ol’ pb&j, though.
This Whole 30, I still have definitely had to ‘detox’ from the junk that had come back in, but I wasn’t as ‘traumatized’ by leaving those foods behind.  In between the last whole 30 and this one, I have had some great truth spoken to my heart about food and caring for my body.  These are some resources that have helped me see that food is meant to fuel us and not comfort us.  Our true and lasting comfort can ONLY come from God through his son, Jesus Christ.  What am I missing when I quickly stuff my mouth instead of bringing God my heart?  These are some of the amazing women who have helped me see this…
Made to Crave by Lisa Terkhurst
Revelation Wellness (I follow Alisa Keeton on Instagram and her posts are SO amazing.  Take the time to read them.)
– Kara Osborne from Wellness Witness (I went to Meredith College for a year with Kara.  God has really used her to open my eyes to His truth!  She has some great tips on food prep!)  She also has a great Instagram (Kara_WellnessWitness)
When I started this Whole 30, I really wanted to ask the Lord to be the leader of my health.  I didn’t want to be doing this out of vanity because I know that is fleeting.  I wanted to do it because I can better serve my family. I wanted to do it with a good attitude.  I did not want for food to control me that much!
Before doing Whole 30, I would HAVE to lay down to rest every day if I was going to make it to bed time without biting somebody’s head off due to exhaustion.  I am able to work through rest time now that I am fueling my body correctly.  I do not have to lay down on the couch when rest time is in order.  Do I still rest?  Absolutetly!  But, I just don’t need to every day.  Freedom!  That is my number one reason I am doing this.  Better quality life!
I complete this round of Whole 30 3 days before I turn 33.  I don’t think I could give myself a better gift – one of health!  I don’t know how much I weigh currently, but I know I’ve gone from a pants size of 10/ 12 down to a solid 8. I lost 2 inches in my waist. I believe I will keep up eating this way for 80-90 % of my week.  I will occasionally have sugar.  But, for me my comfort is now in The Lord as well as HOW COMFORTABLE I FEEL when eating REAL food!
After pictures: I feel like SUCH a goober for posting these!  But, at the same time, I always want to see the result!!  So, here is what I usually look like – at home, no make up, jeans.   I didn’t think to take before pics.
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If you want more information, go to the Whole 30 website or get the book It Starts With Food.  You can do this!!  Let me know if you have any more questions.  I’m working on some meal plans as well as how I did Whole 30 while traveling!  If you have any other questions, I will try to address them!

 

Influence Conference :: Meet and Greet

I am SOOOO excited to be attending The Influence Conference this year!  And, I seriously can’t believe it is in 10 days!   We are doing a little meet and greet, so I just wanted to say hello on my blog and on Instagram! This is my first year attending.   I’m not really nervous (although, that could change!), I’m just really excited!  (I’m pretty sure every sentence I write in this post will have an exclamation point!  Ha!)

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I’m Mary-Lindsey (yep, double name). I’m wifey to Chris.  He is a student minister. We’ve been married 10 years.  I’m a mama to Harper – 6 yrs, Warner, Crews, & Maverick – 5 yrs (identical triplets) & Haven – 2 years.  I stay home with this brood and have started homeschooling them this year.  (Yes, I think I am crazy!)  I have so much stirring in my heart and just want women to know Jesus and to know hope is always there.  I have a big heart for new mamas!!

I am most looking forward to meeting some of these women in person who have greatly encouraged me online!! As well as, making new friends! I also hope to figure out my voice on the blog and social media a little bit better as I am away from chaos for a little bit.

I won’t leave home with out my pillow and noisemaker.  I come from a long line of high maintenance sleepers.  I accept my heritage proudly.  :-)

Things I Learned on Staycation

Chris and I spent Tuesday night –  Saturday afternoon with out children.  Chris’ parents took the girls.  Nancy and Will took the boys.  I flew with the boys and dropped them off, then flew back home.  When I first dropped them off, I felt so weird.  I kept thinking I shouldn’t have done this.  8 million what-ifs ran through my head.  I felt exposed and lacking purpose.  It was very weird.  But, then I was blessed with a row to myself on the way back home.  I had wonderful books and my Bible and had a little over an hour of completely uninterrupted time.  I prayed what I should do with my week, and was able to plan some goals for my time.

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After my flight with (L to R): Crews, Warner, Maverick – our flight attendants were going nuts over the boys. It was really funny.

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The blessed empty row on my flight home.

Goals included:

  • uninterrupted time with Jesus- having a luxurious morning of reading and Bible study was kind of chucked out the window after I had the boys.  I glean what I can when I can.  More on this in a little bit.
  • sleep
  • cook only one time and eat leftovers so I’m not stuck in the kitchen,
  • work on home school stuff for the semester (once again, with out interruption),
  • watch Gilmore Girls to welcome in fall,
  • keep up Whole 30,
  • take a week off exercising and just chill,
  • fill my cup with precious friends & wise words.

I wanted to be refreshed and welcome my kids back to a relaxed mama and a clean house.

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So, here are some lessons I learned…

1.  I’m not a messy person.  This one made me laugh several times.  My house stayed clean.  Laundry took what I felt like was a millisecond.  If something was out of place, I put it back in about a minute.  And it stayed in it’s spot!!  I realized when I start feeling like I’m a horrible house keeper, I just need to shut that voice up because I am a fantastic house keeper! ha!  I have 5 kids!!  Who are learning, but s-l-o-w-l-y learning how to clean up.  So, I will accept the messy house and not live under that lie anymore!

2.  God is the same God in my long drawn out morning studying and soaking in the word as He is in my quick on my knees read a morsel of scripture morning.  I have had struggles in the baby and toddler years about my time with Jesus.  I get up many mornings around 5 or 5:30 just to be able to spend some time with Him before the first child rises (which is usually around 6am. I will rejoice when they start sleeping in a little bit!)  (side note:  I did not get up this early when I was waking up with babies during the night.  I would grab any and every ounce of sleep as possible.  I would seek Jesus during nap time, which many time would lead to me taking a nap.)

Anyway, there were years I would read a verse or two from the Bible.  I longed for so much more, though.  I longed for the quiet mornings I used to have.  I longed to sit and read.  The chaos just didn’t allow for that even though I did my very best to carve out a little time to make Jesus first.  Guess what…I’m realizing now that He honored that itty bit of time I gave!!  He knew it was all I could give and most mornings any and every bit of scripture I read was like water to my weary soul.  He multiplied what I gave to Him. It was great to have exorbitant amounts of time this week to spend with Him and read and not rush.  But, I didn’t encounter a different God.  I encountered the same God. I learned this week to give to Him what I have and He will make much of it.  Put Him first even when I don’t think I can, and He will honor it.

3.  Ease back into parenthood.  We didn’t receive all of the kids back at one time.  I am almost certain receiving them all back at once would have been like jumping into an ice cold lake!!  SHOCK!  We got the girl’s back first, then the boys the next day.  Once everyone was home, Chris and I were still somewhat in shock over how loud it was and how trashed our house was in mere hours.  LOL!

But, our hearts are full and our time ‘away’ was so refreshing.  I would highly recommend doing this for a vacation!  It was so wonderful!!

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One of the many face times with the kids. Poor Haven would cry on everyone, so I resorted to phone calls. I was so happy to see them!

Some other things we did for my records:  had our house cleaned!! Glory!!  Went to dinner at Outback, Burger Up, Ghengis Grill, and Cracker Barrel.  Did some early Christmas shopping for the kids.  Went to Shakespeare in the Park with some sweet friends.  I met up with a precious friend/mentor/teacher who spoke crazy wisdom and encouragement to me!  I went shopping and got a mani/pedi with my mom.  And I did all the other wonderful things listed above… pjs, Gilmore Girls, coffee, time with Jesus, cooking, etc.

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At the Shakespeare play. Such a fun night!

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Uncle Will with the boys. The boys always ask me to do their hair like Uncle Will’s hair. They were pretty much elated here.

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This little saint who, along with Will, (& a little help from my Dad and fam & Aunt and Uncle) gave us this amazing week! It takes a village. But she is the one who held it together and was their mama for the week. Nancy, I will never be able to thank you enough!!!

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Jo Jo and Grandy kept the girls. Harper did not want to come home!!! Haven, well she never wants to leave again. LOL!

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Rested Parents!! Aaaahh

 

Starting Again…again. Gracious.

Hey there!

Well, I haven’t blogged since June.  I have to be honest and say that when I started the ‘renewed’ phase of this blog, I had SO MUCH I wanted to say.  Pretty much every post I wrote and saved (and did not publish) was so wordy.  You would have been hosed down with all the words.  I was overwhelmed and glassy eyed when I would go back to edit and proof read.  I just got stuck.  I became too critical. And so I stopped writing.  I just shut this little part of the world up.

But, I can’t give up on it because it is a stirring.  A deep stirring in my soul.  I’ve been praying over this, and I know God has confirmed to me over and over to keep writing.  So, here we go.  I will keep writing.  I will keep stretching out and coming back to and revisiting until I figure out what works.  I am not giving up!!!

I know I can not keep up with my plan before.  I am starting small.  One post a week.  I can’t even promise a day because life is crazy.   But, I want my life to tell you about the God who is personal and intimate.  I want to share in stories of how I have seen this.  I want to even share stories that don’t have the ending yet.  I want you to come away and see that I am just a human in need of a very big God who sees the tiny me.  And He also sees the tiny you.

Okay, that’s the plan.  Here it goes.

Here is a picture of what life pretty much looks like daily.  I had just crashed into Crews with the Target cart.  He promptly fell on the floor crying in agony because his mother had just accidentally bumped him. Haven always wants to be in contact with me, so she just came and sat.  My mom snapped this picture because it is just so much real life right now.   But, while this chaos consumes me daily.  Jesus offers more.  More life, more joy, more self control, more discipline, more peace (amen!), even more rest!  I have been figuring out how to do this, and I want to share it with you!  It is a process, though, and not a quick fix.  So, pray for me to remember all the little lessons I’ve learned along the way. I can’t wait to begin this journey…again!

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