The month of May was the best month I have had in a long time! I decided on a whim at the beginning of the month to do something sort of crazy.
I deleted Instagram on my phone. I didn’t blog, either.
(I’m not on Twitter or Facebook. Well, I am on Facebook if you search for me, but only because two homeschool groups I am a part of primarily communicate on there. Don’t be sad if I don’t accept your friend request! :-))
I found myself looking at Instagram when I had any downtime at all. If I had five minutes while the noodles were boiling for dinner, I was on IG. It was crazy. Every free second was consumed with Instagram.
I just had to put myself in time out for a little bit. And instead of feeling the loss of IG, it was like I was experiencing life again! Not only did I get a ton of things on my to do list DONE, I also experienced boredom. Which is actually really good for your soul. And, as a mom, boredom doesn’t last very long. But before, there was zero room for it.
While off of anything social media related, I considered staying off of it. I told my sister that I felt like I was a boat with all sorts of little holes in me that social media had eaten away. I was slowly sinking. While off of IG, all those little holes were fixed and I felt soo good!
Some things I did while repairing: went to bed really early, made a giant meal plan for a month, cleaned out my entire house, had a yard sale, took naps, started a read through the Bible in 90 days plan, finished kindergarten with Harper, played with my kids, didn’t lose my cool/ have to have a moment, & planned our homeschool summer. The crazy thing is I didn’t set out to do any of these things. I just found so many wonderful things to fill my time!
The things above seriously make me sound super human. I am not super human – I am very human and fail and waste time all too much. I just realized how much time IG stole from me!!
I found the constant viewing of other people’s lives was taking a toll on my own life.
And, I am different now. I needed to take a step back, and enjoy MY OWN LIFE!
The message in church yesterday was on Philippians 4:4-7. Pastor Mike had it titled Fight for Joy! This is the familiar passage that tells us not to worry and to rejoice and give thanks while we bring our requests to God. If we do that, we are promised His peace (that we cannot understand) to guard our hearts! I loved a few things our pastor said – First he said, when the joy of the Lord isn’t filling you daily – first thing, in fact- it is easy to get to the point of imploding – all the pressure on the outside is too great. He challenged us to guard our hearts and minds so that nothing on the outside can change what is on the inside.
He also said, when you engage in worship and get your focus vertical (meaning on God), you over flow. You can’t hold an ocean (God’s perfect, fill you up love) in a thimble (you & me.) We are bound to pour out onto others that way!!!
I’m loading Instagram back onto my phone on Monday, but it is going to come with some boundaries this time. I want to guard against the pressure from the outside. I want to do my best to overflow by being filled.
- Only will post 2 times a day MAX- with my main post being in the morning after I have my quiet time. The kids usually aren’t up yet, so I am not taking away from them. My plan is to post a pic of our yesterday.
- I won’t comment until nap time/ rest time. I want my morning to be used as a pouring out time on my kids, and I can’t pour out if I am empty. So I want to guard against IG sucking the life out of me that early!
- I will put my phone timer on for 15 minutes while the kids rest. I will respond to comments first, then scroll and see what my friends are up to. This usually is fun (ahem..why it is addicting!) but, it is amazing how just one tiny picture can make me feel like I am failing at life. I’m determined to guard my heart. If there is a person I follow whom I really struggle with jealousy or feeling like less of person (which I’m sure is not their intention, but more of my weakness), I will unfollow them. If they notice I unfollow them and ask me about it, I will be honest with them and tell them that I have to guard my heart. More than likely, they won’t even notice. I also have to remember that this is mostly the shiny parts of their lives, they are human and do not avoid the hard parts of life – they just may not show them via social media.
- No random perusing when bored. If it is not during those set times, I’m not going to be on IG.
I hope and pray that these little boundaries will help me stay filled so I can pour out to those around me.
How do you keep boundaries? Have you even considered boundaries like this?
I would like to add a disclaimer to this post : This is the season of life I am in right now. When I was up feeding a baby in the night, when I was stuck in the house for days on end due to sick babies…I could have never been more thankful for social media!!!! It kept me in touch with the outside world. I am in a new season where my children realize where I put my focus. They also notice if my phone is in front of my face for most of the day. So, while I think anyone could benefit from a social media fast, it just may not be your time, and that is ok, too! Just keep it in mind, because I know you will be refreshed!!